8 Signs Your Baby & Sibling Aren’t Just Getting Along… They’re Falling In Love

 

Welcoming another baby into your family is exciting, but for many second-time parents the excitement can be tempered with the fear that your baby and their sibling won’t get along. You’ve had a baby before, sure, but not with an older child in the house! How’s that going to go? Is your older child going to the new arrival? Is the baby going to like their sibling? And if the initial meeting goes off without a hitch, i there a way t tell if your baby is falling in love with their sibling?

This was a huge source of anxiety me. My son was, as many only-children are, the unquestioned center of my world the moment he entered it. Not that I didn’t have a life outside of him, of course, but he was definitely my favorite part of it. I knew, deep down, that I’d certainly love this new baby as much as I loved her brother… but what if they didn’t love each other? Was it going to be like that time in high school when my two best friends didn’t speak to each other for a year, because that sucked.

Turns out I didn’t have to worry — we somehow lucked out of the very typical “jealous phase” and, as we speak, my 5- and 7-year-old are playing upstairs together, giggling.

Clinical psychotherapist Kevon Owen explains that, in many cases, a growing love between siblings will come just from being around one another. “Familiarity is closely related to comfort,” he tell Romper via email. “At very early ages you may not know who people are, but you know who is present in giving you love and attention. You can encourage recognition by allowing older siblings to be a part of attention and care.”

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Here’s Why You Need to Create Your Bucket List, Today

 

Imagine hitting the gym floor at age 83 to do pushups, weighted squats and resistance walking twice a week. “One of my female clients is a beast,” says Mia Shanté, co-founder and owner of North Hollywood, CA-based Lift & Flow Performance. “She started working with me because she didn’t want older age to get the best of her – and it’s not!”

Shanté works with lots of retirees who’ve decided to stay active and fit into their golden years. “If you’re like most Americans, work and life has gotten in the way of your physical fitness,” she says. “Now’s your time to take it back – and add it to your bucket list.”

About 91% of retirees have made a bucket list, according to a survey of more than 3,000 people conducted by the Stanford University School of Medicine.

“Creating a bucket list is a great exercise because we should always keep dreaming,” says Kevon Owen, M.S., LPC, an Oklahoma-based counselor and licensed clinical psychotherapist with a degree in gerontology. “You never stop becoming who you’re going to be. A bucket list can help you to prioritize what’s most important to you. For example, if you want to ballroom dance with your true love after you renew your vows at your 50^th anniversary, the list will help keep you focused and on task.”

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Why You Hate Everyone (and 11 Great Tips on How to Change This)

Screaming, hate, rage. Crying emotional angry woman screaming. Emotional, young face.

Is there a reason why someone would feel like they hate everyone?
If so, are there ways to change this mindset?

Why you hate everyone is an interesting mindset to adopt. When I encounter this range of thought I usually wonder one of three things:

How hurt or angry is this person?

Hurt and anger left unresolved can feel like hate. If this is the root of your hating everyone its time to evaluate who you are and who you’d like to be. If you’ve been hurt that’s acceptable. Treat your injuries. Seek emotional support. Work to forgive the wrongdoer. The lack of forgiveness is like drinking poison and expecting someone else to die from it.

If you hate everyone, is it hate or is it hurt by so many? You don’t have to stay hurt and you don’t have to carry the weight of the lack of forgiveness. If who you want to be isn’t hurt and angry make some changes. You will either work to resolve your hurt or you will pass it on.

The preemptive rejection or low self-esteem.

If you hate someone before they hate you, you win, right? Or does this hate that’s there to protect actually keep people from knowing or connecting to you. With few exceptions, everyone wants to be liked and accepted.

If you decide you dislike people before they decide they dislike you, you start and conclude an unfortunate story long before you have to know. Try assuming that instead of people are mean or uninterested assume that people want to be liked. When you meet that need they recuperate it.
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Overcoming Feeling Of Loneliness

lonely young woman on couch

 

Almost everyone at some point in their life is alone. This could be due to a relationship ending, children moving away, or by choice. While many are happy being alone, others develop feelings of loneliness. For some, loneliness heightens depression and can be challenging to deal with. Sometimes loneliness can aggravate addictions, even those that were overcome years ago. It is possible to overcome feelings of loneliness and its affects and if you are looking for loneliness therapy Edmond Oklahoma, Kevon Owen should be one of the first on your list. 

Types of Loneliness

On a clinical level, there are two type of loneliness, chronic and transient. Chronic loneliness may last for years, while transient loneliness is temporary and can be related to a temporary issue, such as a week of dreary weather. Chronic loneliness can often be caused by something internal and can have varying degrees of intensity. A good therapist will be able to determine the type of loneliness and the proper treatment. 

Loneliness and Depression

Loneliness and depression can be linked. It is important to identify the differences between loneliness and being alone. Someone can be alone but not feel lonely. Feeling lonely is often considered a negative state of mind. Depression can follow because the person may feel that they are alone due to personality traits or actions. It is also possible to feel lonely even when living with others, sometimes due to abuse or relationship difficulties with partners or children. 

Loneliness and Addiction

Loneliness and addiction can be connected. Loneliness can lead to an aggravation of addictions, since the person who is lonely can feel a lack of support. Loneliness can also result from addiction, either because the person has isolated themselves from those who are not participating in the addition or because the person is trying to stay away from those who feed the addiction. Loneliness therapy can help address the core problem and offer solutions. 

Overcoming Feelings of Loneliness

If you are struggling with loneliness, attending therapy can help identify specific problems and offer solutions to these issues. Well-meaning but misinformed friends and family might make suggestions such as getting out and meeting other people, but solutions are often a bit more complex. Depending on the causes, therapy can vary. A therapist can also easily distinguish feelings of loneliness versus depression, which is an important distinction. 

A therapist who deals with loneliness can help. It is important to identify the problems that are causing the loneliness and treat those individually. In this way, the therapist is treating the core issues, not just symptoms of loneliness. This is vital to long-term mental health. 

Who Can Help 

Kevon Owen is an experienced, Christian therapist right here in Edmond. He utilizes God’s word along with a personalized therapy plan for your road to recovery. Kevon is well-versed in loneliness therapy Edmond Oklahoma and treating loneliness and its underlying causes and he has your best interests at heart. Kevon is happy to help couples, individuals, children, and adolescents. His website can be found at https://www.kevonowen.com

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